do these lists help lessen the mental load of running a household and a family? yes.
but do they also help me prioritize the things in my life that are most important to me? absolutely.
i use (and love!) Google Keep for my lists, but use whatever works best for you.
similar:
my If Haley Dies document - I use Google Sheets for this!
our split responsibilities and fridge whiteboard - not a list, but gosh we love this.
The Box - our easiest, most-used household system